Looking around the playground there are smiles all around me.
Laughter and happy tales but behind those painted smiles are tired and broken people
The kids didn’t sleep I know because you posted last night on social media, then again this morning stating how many times they had you up.
I do the same myself. My children tag team at times and I now can’t remember the last time I had a full nights sleep.
I post this too then smile in the playground as if nothing has happened.
The thing is its part of what we signed up for when becoming parents. They don’t come with hand books or rules or even instructions. They are all different so we fell we should just smile and get on with it and paint on a smile when times are tough.
But what happens when there are worse things going on in our lives…the children not sleeping is the least of your problems but we tend not to talk of those things either do we?
Because we’ve trained ourselves not to overshare.
Not to talk of our problems in public
This is why we walk around with painted smiles on our faces and the pre-programmed words “I’m fine”.
When did sharing your feelings become so wrong, when did it start being taboo?
We spend our lives teaching our children right from wrong, urging them to open up and share their day, their troubles and their feelings
But, we don’t do this ourselves
Children cry if they are in pain
They cry if they are hurt
They scream and stamp their feet just because they can – to release their frustrations
But we don’t do this as adults
Instead we hold it all inside
We bottle it up
And we don’t talk
We walk around with a faux painted smile on our faces when people are around, and convince ourselves that ‘we really are fine’
So, next time you see a friend smiling try looking behind that smile, try looking into their eyes – do they say “I’m fine” a little too quickly?
We all need to read between the lines a little – you may have a friend who is so used to painting on their smile that they’ve forgotten how not to.