Grief for an adult is hard enough to deal with, we have the questions of why to process ourselves and to try to make sense of the void left behind.
We all deal with things in our own way, which is fine. It’s what we do. We find things which help us through each day be it talking, crying, remembering, comforting others or keeping busy.
As adults we are able to at least understand what has happened, it doesn’t make it any easier but we at least have the ability to process this information and we can ask questions and ask for help and support.
As an adult I’m asking for your help please.
How do I help Emmy through this pain?
She knows what has happened, we’ve explained I’m simple terms that Nanny has died.
We’ve told her Nanny is in heaven and is now a shining star, the brightest star shining over us all.
She looks up and waves but she doesn’t understand.
She is 5 and a half.
It’s a funny age, an age of questions and learning.
Obviously this is new for us, I’ve never had to explain death to a child before.
She has lost goldfish but it’s a huge difference as her goldfish were replaced shortly after. Nanny will never ever be replaced.
How do I help with her emotions now?
She is suffering, we all are however as my baby I need to help her.
Emmy has become very clingy, especially at night time. She won’t sleep unless I’m holding her hand and if I leave the room after she is asleep she wakes almost immediately crying. We’ve cuddled all night for the past few nights and if she let’s go of me in her sleep she instantly wakes crying.
It’s been very unsettling for her as she had to spend a few nights away from me and I wonder if this is the cause of some of the clingy behaviour.
So for maybe the first time ever as a parent I’m lost, I don’t know what to do and I’m asking for some help and advice please?