Most people have some understanding of what we mean when we say we are suffering from stress but, in reality, the word covers a broad spectrum of feelings. Stress, experienced fleetingly as a reaction to a common life experience, is a normal part of life. Bringing up children can be stressful and myriad incidents happen on a daily basis which raise our stress levels. However, these episodes are not generally harmful and replicate the ‘fight or flight’ mechanism, which we have retained from our hunter-gatherer forbearers. What is harmful is the type of stress which is experienced as intense mental pressure and which leads to an overwhelming sense of being unable to cope with life. Those suffering in this way risk developing more serious forms of mental disturbance, as described by the NHS as well as plenty of literature and as is well understood across all spectrums of society now.
For those wrapped up in the stresses of parenting there is a lot we can do to minimise the onset and debilitating effects of stress and, in the end, they come down to a combination of time management and to accepting that you count too. A few simple tips for this type of daily stress in your family life are:
Get up 15 minutes earlier in the morning before the hustle and bustle of family life begins
Prepare such things as what children are going to wear or what they need for school the night before.
Keep a diary in the kitchen so you know the children’s itinerary in advance
Delegate responsibilities to your children, this is the beginning of the development of mature and dependable adults
Focus on you, reassure yourself of your worth
Breathe deeply, inhale and exhale rhythmically
Regrettably, these approaches will not relieve anxiety for those more traumatised by stress. It can affect every part of our lives, how we feel or think, our sense of self-worth, our sleep, concentration, our interactions with partners and children and much more. One difficulty for those who
want to relieve stress in their lives is that there is no test that definitively diagnoses stress. A sympathetic GP who knows you and your life circumstances can offer a diagnosis based on a number of widely agreed symptoms. Bupa describes these symptoms succinctly and list a range of options for addressing the problem.
For some, especially for those who tackle the problem early, self-help strategies work well. Others may need medication to enable them to keep going until they can engage with the underlying causes of the issue. Practising yoga or meditation is also outstanding for keeping stress at bay and for maintaining a healthy mind and body. The talking therapies are also hugely effective for the relief of stress. Broadly speaking, the talking therapies work on getting you to identify the causes of the stress in your life and guide you toward finding ways to alleviate these causes. The
Therapy Lounge offer hypnotherapy to relieve stress, they use a combination of hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming and cognitive behavioural therapy. They also provide you with the tools to manage stress on an ongoing basis.
There are many forms of help out there but stress relief is possible whether we are dealing with the normal everyday stresses in our lives or living with the paralyzing effects of chronic stress. Putting off addressing the matter is not an option.