There is NO such thing as a good or bad Mummy (or Daddy)!!
It is all about trying your best and working from that. There will be good days and equally bad days, there will be days when everything goes right and equally days where everything goes wrong. You will feel on top of the world at some points and others so low you don’t want to go on. But you do and must because you are a parent – above all else that comes first, the love you feel for a child, your child is above anything you will every feel – it becomes the most important love and thing to you.
I have been thinking a lot about this this week after a friend asked if I found it harder being a parent than being a Nanny, or at least different? I could answer that easily – Yes!
As a Nanny the children would have set rules with me: Main meals before pudding, no treats if they hadn’t eaten most of the main meal, set lunch and tea times (to an extent), we tried hard to tidy up before the parents came home, they would be bathed and in their p.j’s ready for bed and when they got older they would have set nap times (also to an extent if home) and set bed times and bed time routines if I was babysitting – and they would go to bed on their own without me staying with them when they were older. If their parents wanted to change any of these things when I wasn’t around then that was entirely up to them as they are their children after all.
So do I do all of the above still now i’m a parent? Quite simply No! I break all of the rules I set when I was working. Do I feel bad about it? If I asked myself that same question last week I would have probably said yes, however on good reflection of it today I have decided the answer is No.
Today Emmy had Chocolate for breakfast, napped briefly in the car, jumped in muddy puddles soaking her trousers, drank some Coca Cola while out to lunch with us and ate tea in front of the TV. Lots of No, No’s there. However does it make me a Bad parent? Of course Not!! It makes me a happy parent with a happy daughter. Not all days are like; that infact her favourite food is Mummies home-made Leek and Potatoe Soup and she will happily eat peas until they are coming out of her ears.
There is no point to this post I just wanted to share with you that we are allowed to not do things by the book but if you are happy and so are your children then you are doing a great job!! Don’t be judged by others – parenting comes with NO RULE BOOK.