We have been together now for 15 years and married for 9 years yet since Emmy was born we have had very little time alone together. Up until Harry was born when Emmy was 2 years and 9 months she hadn’t spent a night away from us, she stayed with Paul’s parents while I was in hospital having Harry and since then they’ve been with us all the time. My lovely Mum had then both in March last year for a night while we went away overnight for our anniversary and when I go away for conferences Paul usually has then.
My parents stepped in again when we went up to Manchester by my Mum moving into my house for 2 days/nights to have the children. It was lovely for them to spend some quality time with the kids and by all accounts everyone enjoyed themselves, the kids have certainly not stopped talking about their time with Nanny and Grandad and how much fun they had.
Trying to keep up with spending some time together as a couple we arranged for Paul’s Dad to babysit the children on Friday and to have them at his overnight. I took them over around 4.30 and after going through bedtime routines and explaining about Harry’s eczema creams we left knowing they were in good hands. With backup from his girlfriend we knew Grandad would be fine as would the children and headed off to the cinema for the evening. Although the film we saw wasn’t great, infact neither of us enjoyed Green Room sadly it was nice to leave the house and not worry about being back at a certain time. We had planned to go to dinner after but weren’t hungry when we came out so headed home, we sat up watching a movie, drinking and chatting until the very early hours – definitely not something you can do when your children don’t sleep through the night and wake at the crack of dawn. We had a lie-in and vegged all morning watching TV and having some me time – I managed a very long soak in a HOT bath and dyed my hair too.
The children went fishing on Saturday morning with Grandad and then to McDonalds before being delivered home and we all played in the garden, before settling down for dinner and then to have a campout downstairs watching Eurovision, Harry fell sleep quickly so it was nice to cuddle up to Emmy chatting and watching together.
Today, Emmy went off to the cinema with my best friend and her children while we took Harry to the driving range for a few swings of his club – he had a practice few shots in the field last week and was very keen to play ‘proper golf’ so this was good enough for him. He had a fantastic time swinging his club like a big boy and it was really nice to spend some time alone with just him as although I spend alone time with him in the week he doesn’t spend time with just Mummy and Daddy. (click to watch his video)
This afternoon we all played in the garden very happily on the swings and the trampoline, we made a boat, a house and a car and had a family BBQ.
The children were happy and enjoyed each others company more for having some time apart this morning which meant no fighting and we were all relaxed for having a little time to ourselves.
We are hoping to make this a regular thing of perhaps once a month.
As much as I love being a parent I do miss ‘me time’ and I can now see it is actually very beneficial for all of us to reclaim some of that every now and again.
Do you have time away from the kids? How do you still make time to be a couple or just for yourself?