How To Spend Quality Time With More Than One Child

Wondering how to spend quality time with more than one child? If you’re a parent of multiples, this is probably a common thought. Instead of beating yourself up over this, take charge and find a way to make it work. With a few tips and ideas, you can easily split your time to spend quality time with each child.

Even though you might feel as though you’re being pulled in 100 different directions all day, every day, there is always time to slow down and be with the kids. The way that time is spent together might vary a bit depending on the time, day, or place, but there is a way to slow down and enjoy quality time with all of your kids equally.

If you’re ready to find out how to split your time fairly among your kids, here are a few helpful tips:

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Being a parent can be tough but if you start to lay out a plan, it can also be a fun and adventurous experience. Here are some simple ideas on how you can give each child quality time with you each and every week.

There are many things you can do to spend one-on-one time, such as:

Bath time – younger children will enjoy this time where you can sit and listen to their stories about their day. Take this opportunity to ask them about homework, school, friends, clubs or their worries. You could even read them a story during this time.
– For older children who don’t need/want supervision during bath/shower time – you could offer to brush their hair after their bath, give a head massage or even style or dry longer hair.

Bedtime stories – younger children love this time, and even those older teenagers who may not want you to read a story with them may enjoy sitting together and watching a TikTok together or an episode of a show you both enjoy.
Homework – with younger children, you can supervise to ensure they are doing their homework, while older teenagers may not want you to supervise, they may enjoy laughing at you when they show you their homework, and you have absolutely NO IDEA how to even start let alone complete it,

Preparing meals – Once a week you could enlist the help of a child when it comes to preparing your evening meals. This not only helps to teach children independence but usually means they eat more as have helped to prepare it and teaches essential life skills at the same time,
A special day for just them – This depends on the available childcare you have for your other child.

Have a conversation based on expectations

Let’s be real. Depending on the age of your child, quality time may or may not be wanted. A six-year-old is going to want to spend time with their mum, but does a sixteen-year-old? Maybe, but probably not as much.

Sit down with your kids and talk to them about what they’d like to do for quality time. Ask questions, find out their interests, and then use that information to make an individual plan on fun things to do together during the week.

Assign each child a specific day per week

This is information for you to figure out and not something that you need to tell the kids necessarily. Find a day each week that you can “assign” to each child and then carve out time that you’re going to spend specifically with them. They’ll love the quality time with you and you’ll love having a plan that is consistent with the kids as well.

Adjust your time accordingly

Sometimes, being a parent means putting ourselves on hold and focusing on the kids. If your kids need you more during the day, adjust your time for your work to be early in the morning or later at night. This way, you’ll be able to be there for each kiddo as they need you and be able to snuggle up with them more as well.

As you can see, quality time with each child can happen with just a little bit of planning and preparation. The sooner you can figure out a routine that works best for the kids and you, the sooner you can create an atmosphere at home that has all the kids feeling as though they’re getting some much-needed quality time with you.

Give yourself a bit of grace during this time as well and don’t forget to give yourself quality time with yourself, too! We all need time to recharge and reboot!